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Secrets to Surviving Infidelity

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Now completely updated! A compassionate guide to help couples survive infidelity and improve their relationship.

When a couple's trust is shattered by infidelity, healing may seem beyond reach—but it doesn't have to be. This second edition of Secrets to Surviving Infidelity offers a compassionate and practical roadmap toward recovery and reconnection. Through humane insights and step-by-step strategies, Dr. Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and marriage educator, shares how to overcome the pain of betrayal and strengthen relationships in its wake.

Whether you are the wronged partner, the one who strayed, or a therapist navigating your clients' infidelity, this book serves as an essential guide to the intricacies of infidelity—from the initial shock and heartache to the complex process of rebuilding trust. This second edition includes new information on:

• The evolving definitions of marriage and commitment, with updated language to include those who are in unmarried, committed relationships.
• Relationship challenges unique to the LGBTQ+ community
• Gender and sex issues
• The neuroscience of infidelity and "flame addiction"
• Strategies for conflict management

Dr. Haltzman combines real-life stories with robust research to illuminate the types of infidelity, the varied motivations behind affairs, and their impacts on relationships. He provides clear guidance on how to end an affair, how to cope with feelings of anger and grief, and how to foster forgiveness and healing. This book can also serve as a preventive tool to explore and strengthen bonds to make relationships affair-resistant. Secrets to Surviving Infidelity is a lifeline for those desperate to recover and safeguard their relationships.

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    • Library Journal

      June 1, 2013

      Haltzman (psychiatry, David Lawrence Ctr.; The Secrets of Happy Families) attempts to answer the question of what drives men and women toward having an affair. He explains the emotional, biological, and chemical aspects of human attraction and offers advice to couples on what to do once an affair is exposed, as well as how to communicate, forgive, and build a stronger relationship. Included are passages submitted to his website by individuals responsible for the infidelity, as well as those who suffer the impact of a partner's unfaithfulness. Haltzman provides professional insight into both experiences, and he encourages readers to look deeper into their own behaviors, which is especially useful for those committed to mending a relationship. While a range of emotions are considered here, Haltzman believes open communication may help best during the healing process and will foster a trusting relationship. VERDICT Haltzman is a strong believer in couples sticking it out, and his advice allows readers to decide whether to stay in a bruised relationship. Recommended for those interested in learning more about relationships, as well as students, scholars, and researchers studying psychology, human sexuality, and sociology.--Tina Chan, SUNY Oswego

      Copyright 2013 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

    • Publisher's Weekly

      April 1, 2013
      While keyed specifically to meet the needs of couples coping with the shock and pain of an affair, this vital guide from marriage and infidelity expert Haltzman (The Secrets of Happy Families) contains cogent advice for anyone in a troubled relationship. Drawing from know-how accrued not from having an affair, but from online surveys and years of working as a psychiatrist, Haltzman guides readers toward an understanding of why people resort to infidelity, explaining to transgressors how to end an affair in four steps, understand why they cheated, control impulses, make an appropriate apology, and rebuild trust. On the other hand, he helps the innocent parties take stock of their emotions, let go of anger, and decide if and when they’re ready to repair the relationship. Chapters on managing expectations, effective communication techniques, and conflict resolution are particularly resonant and useful. Ultimately, his approach can be summed up in the wise axiom, “You can either fight to be right or fight to be married.”

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