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A WASHINGTON POST NOTABLE BOOK • “Celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity.”—The Atlantic
Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people.
In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains
• the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen
• how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete
• how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships
• how social media is reshaping communication and relationships
Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better.
“At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”—The Washington Post
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OverDrive Read
- ISBN: 9781101885819
- File size: 686 KB
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EPUB ebook
- ISBN: 9781101885819
- File size: 686 KB
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- English
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Reviews
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June 1, 2017
Tannen's (linguistics, Georgetown Univ.; You Were Always Mom's Favorite! Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives) in-depth look at how girls and women become friends, what constitutes intimacy, the value of listening skills, and the impact of sharing secrets and gossip, along with all too familiar miscommunications, illuminates how friends help one another to be their true selves. With knowledge and wisdom, the author helps readers navigate the subtle workings of language in interactions among women. How do you judge what people really say and feel? Across cultures and age groups, she offers countless examples from her own life and research that illuminate these uniquely supportive, sometimes competitive, and often challenging relationships. Tannen sets out to help women make friendships stronger, accomplishing this in a highly accessible manner with both scientific research and a warm heart. Of particular value is the exploration into the changes created by the advent of social media. VERDICT Firmly recommended for students of women's studies and for every woman committed to the gift of enduring friendships.--Gloria Drake, Oswego P.L. Dist., IL
Copyright 2017 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.
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May 1, 2017
Georgetown professor and expert in the field of interactional sociolinguistics, Tannen (You Were Always Mom's Favorite! Sisters in Conversation throughout Their Lives, 2009) presents many facets of the interactions in female friendship through case studies of girls and women, ages 9 to 97 and from various backgrounds. Her approach provides a detached, easy way for readers to look at and understand situations they've probably been in, too. While making clear that her use of typical or specific scenarios should not be mistaken for norms, Tannen addresses women's tendency to seek and make bonds, the way secrets and talk of personal troubles can act as currency in this process, the subtle balance between connection and competition between female friends, and much more. Appropriately, Tannen also examines women's communication via e-mail, text, and social media, often now synonymous with spoken conversation. Tannen's extensive research and writing, full of thought-provoking questions along with facts, are sure to hook readers enticed by her rich topic.(Reprinted with permission of Booklist, copyright 2017, American Library Association.)
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