Say the Right Thing
How to Talk About Identity, Diversity, and Justice
A practical, shame-free guide for navigating conversations across our differences at a time of rapid social change.
In the current period of social and political unrest, conversations about identity are becoming more frequent and more difficult. On subjects like critical race theory, gender equity in the workplace, and LGBTQ-inclusive classrooms, many of us are understandably fearful of saying the wrong thing. That fear can sometimes prevent us from speaking up at all, depriving people from marginalized groups of support and stalling progress toward a more just and inclusive society.
Kenji Yoshino and David Glasgow, founders of the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging at NYU School of Law, are here to show potential allies that these conversations don't have to be so overwhelming. Through stories drawn from contexts as varied as social media posts, dinner party conversations, and workplace disputes, they offer seven user-friendly principles that teach skills such as how to avoid common conversational pitfalls, engage in respectful disagreement, offer authentic apologies, and better support people in our lives who experience bias.
Research-backed, accessible, and uplifting, Say the Right Thing charts a pathway out of cancel culture toward more meaningful and empathetic dialogue on issues of identity. It also gives us the practical tools to do good in our spheres of influence. Whether managing diverse teams at work, navigating issues of inclusion at college, or challenging biased comments at a family barbecue, Yoshino and Glasgow help us move from unconsciously hurting people to consciously helping them.
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Library Journal
September 1, 2022
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Booklist
January 1, 2023
NYU law professors Yoshino (Covering) and Glasgow, who are also directors at the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging, here provide compelling, practical advice and techniques for holding conversations with others about identity without feeling ashamed, whether in the workplace, in the classroom, or with family. The authors explain that everyone holds biases, and it is important to recognize them. This book draws on research and numerous scenarios and anecdotes to highlight how to listen attentively, lean on discomfort, recognize inclusive and non-inclusive behaviors, and seek guidance from others. Readers interested in communications specifically related to equity, diversity, and inclusion will find lots of relevant advice in this timely book, along with many opportunities to respectfully rethink and reframe interactions and disagreements with others across a spectrum of different identities, experiences, and perspectives.COPYRIGHT(2023) Booklist, ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
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Kirkus
Starred review from January 1, 2023
How to communicate better about our personal and collective differences. Yoshino and Glasgow, who founded the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging at the NYU School of Law, offer assistance on how to talk about the "social identities" we all demonstrate. "We are both gay men who spent our formative years in the closet," they write. "During that time, we were desperate to talk about our own identities, but the words felt unspeakable, even to the people who mattered most in our lives. That suffocating silence led us to search for a more powerful way of communicating." Their guiding assumption is that such conversations intimidate many people and that confusion about how to "say the right thing" has become an obstacle to empathy and mutual understanding. The authors skillfully explore seven key areas: how to avoid so-called "conversational traps," build resilience in dealing with differing points of view, cultivate curiosity about how others perceive the world, disagree respectfully when necessary, apologize authentically when wrongs are committed, apply the platinum rule (help others as they would prefer to be helped), and be generous to those who act in noninclusive ways. The authors' advice has been extensively field-tested, and they are admirably nuanced in their identification of specific challenges to the promotion of constructive dialogue. Particularly effective are the discussions of how privilege can operate along different dimensions, how particular verbal strategies can diffuse tension and build trust, and how wariness about others' judgements can be mitigated. The highlight of the book, however, is the chapter on apologies, which offers vivid illustrations of those that did not work (usually because they deflected responsibility and sometimes even compounded an original insult) and those that did (by opening collaborative possibilities for addressing harm and combatting ignorance). The authors successfully set forth a clear sense of how one might balance accountability for wrongs with compassion for those who have erred. A sensitive and sensible handbook for encouraging positive conversations about identity.COPYRIGHT(2023) Kirkus Reviews, ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
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