LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI PRIZE 2024
'On the bookshelves, there was plenty of stuff on being gay, and much needed, joyous accounts of what it is to be trans, but nothing really that encapsulates what is it to be both - to exist in the hazy terrain between.'
After his relationship with his girlfriend of 5 years ended, Harry realised he was a single adult for the first time - not only that, but a single, transmasculine and newly out gay man.
Despite knowing it was the right decision, the reality of his new situation was terrifying. How could he be a gay man, when he was still learning what it was to be a man? Would the gay community embrace him or reject him? What would gay sex be like? And most importantly, would finding love again be possible?
In this raw, intimate and unflinchingly honest book, we follow Harry as he navigates the sometimes fraught and contradictory worlds of contemporary gay culture as a trans gay man, from Grindr, dating and gay bars, to saunas, sex and ultimately, falling in love. Harry's brave and uplifting journey will show you there is joy in finding who you are.
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May 18, 2023 -
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- ISBN: 9781839971846
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- ISBN: 9781839971846
- File size: 917 KB
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- English
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Publisher's Weekly
March 20, 2023
In this vulnerable and frequently amusing memoir, trans activist Nicholas recalls growing up as a girl who “everyone assumed” was a lesbian and trying “really, really, really hard” to be one, despite his attraction for men. He began hormonal therapy and had top surgery while dating his long-term girlfriend, Lucy, and after she broke up with him in 2018, Nicholas realized that he “needed to allow myself the chance to experience being gay,” despite not knowing whether he would be accepted in the gay community as a trans man. Though heavy topics such as body dysphoria, transphobia, and sexual assault are discussed, Nicholas’s self-deprecating humor shines as he recounts coming out to his parents, meeting men on Grindr, visiting gay saunas, and looking for a long-term partner. His journey culminates in the difficult realization that the only way forward is to dispel the fear that the world may not accept him by learning to accept himself: “It is one of my proudest accomplishments to be able to read my own reflection of me and enjoy what I see.... This is not the body that I was born with; it has been made, created, sculpted. It is intentional. It is magic.” Funny, candid, and smart, this is an important contribution to the understanding of what it means to be gay and trans.
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- English
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